BOKO HARAM HAS BOMBED A MOSQUE

The dreaded terrorist group, Boko Haram, has bombed a Mosque in Maiduguri, killing eleven persons.

The commissioner of police in the state,
Damian Chukwu, who confirmed the
incident, said it happened around 5:40am on 16th february, 2019.

He said two suicide bombers, accompanied by a gunman, infiltrated the mosque located at Kushari village behind old CBN quarters in the ancient city.

“Eleven people including three bombers
died while fifteen others sustained injuries and are currently hospitalized at the State Specialist Hospital Maiduguri.”

The Science Of Kissing

How You And Your Partner Exchange Your DNA 

Even though kissing is considered “first base,” the act can be wildly intimate. When you think about how close you have to get to someone to kiss them, the game changes. You get to feel their lips and their tongue. You can smell and taste their breathe. Suddenly, it’s not so casual, is it?

Well the sex experts at Bustle have the 411 on why kissing is a lot more intense than society makes it out to be.

“The human body is an incredibly complex, contained, self-sustaining ecosystem of chemicals and micro-organisms,” sex expert and educator Candice Smith, M.Ed., told Bustle. “While we may discount it as ‘spit,’ our saliva contains the building blocks, the real chemical essence, of who we are.”

“Swapping spit” is literally what we are doing, and for biological, procreation reasons beyond what our minds can fathom.

“Your saliva is you, distilled into fluid form,” Smith explained. “When we kiss, we’re essentially sharing a tiny bit of our ecosystems — we’re swapping genetic information that our bodies unconsciously process — and in doing so, we learn more about each other in an instant than we ever could consciously.”

It makes sense why some of us could be a little hesitant about deciding on potential partner until you’ve kissed.

“That’s what makes it such a powerful form of intimacy; when (if) you decide to continue swapping saliva, you’ve essentially selected each other not just on a conscious level, but you’ve accepted them with every fiber of your DNA, too,” Smith said.

Aside from exchanging genetic information, kissing can boost your immune system.

“Children initially build up their immune resistance to the world by interacting with it,” Smith said. You know the kid that can’t seem to keep their tongue off the poles on the subway (yeck!), that gross act is making them stronger.

“We don’t do that quite as much as we get older, so kissing may be one of our more effective ways of introducing our immune systems to new microbiomes of bacteria,” she explained.

Your mate also may be inserting the hormone testosterone into your system, to get you all hot and ready. “Testosterone is an anabolic sex hormone that can incite sexual drive, so scientists theorize that unconsciously, your testosterone-producing partner may be trying to get you in the mood,” Smith described.

Kissing is also a natural date vetting mechanism. Maybe you don’t like kissing them because your germs are incompatible, versus your personalities.

“If they don’t harmonize, your body will reject that partner as a possible mate.”

@ www.madamenoire.com

You Need to Know The Importance of Good Sex as a Black Woman

The Importance of Good Sex as a Black Woman

As a black woman, the very act of existing is stressful. We’re only a few weeks into 2019, and the headlines are already reminding me why marginalized folks are exhausted—the news leaves my stomach in knots, social media stresses me the hell out, and I’m constantly feeling gaslit by commentators on TV. I feel the stress of being a black woman in my bones.

I’ve been looking for an effective coping strategy for years, but the anxiety of being a black woman is relentless. My brain buzzes on alert with everyday frustrations and painful past memories even when I sleep. “Living in a country that is so heavily steeped in systemic racism impacts our mental health in a number of ways,” says Joy Harden Bradford, Ph.D., founder of Therapy for Black Girls. “The stress that we experience as a result of the often daily micro- and macro-aggression can lead to increased anxiety, depression, anger, difficulty sleeping, and isolation.”

Exhausted, angry, and frustrated, I recently realized there’s only one situation in which I feel totally free of these feelings: after orgasm.

The sweet mental and emotional release of an orgasm is the only thing that seems to help on days when the state of the world leaves me feeling tangled up in knots of anxiety. Seriously, orgasms, whether solo or coupled, have often saved me.

A radical reason for good sex

The idea that sex could help provide a salve against the news cycle isn’t totally crazy—we’ve all heard the long list ofstress-reducing benefits of orgasm. Resolving to have better sex as a form of self-care, however, felt a little bit like a joke at first. But the more I’ve tried to prioritize good sex, the more I understand just how important it is, especially for marginalized women.

Like many black women, my relationship with sex is complicated. Catcalls, sexual harassment, objectification, and unwanted sexual attention have all eaten away at my connection to healthy sex as an adult—a familiar reality for many women (no matter the color of their skin) but especially for marginalized women. With few social barriers to protect us, black women’s trauma is everywhere: A 2018 study conducted by the National Women’s Law Center found black women file sexual harassment charges at three times the rate of white women.

Growing up, I internalized all of this. Sexuality was something that put you in danger and should be suppressed at all costs. So I made a sacrifice: fear sex to maintain my (relative) safety.

But I'm learning there is power in prioritizing good sex. “We often ask black folks, ‘If you don’t have agency over your own body, how do you plan to have political, social, and economic agency?’” say Rafaella Fiallo and Dalychia Saah, founders of Afrosexology. “Reclaiming your body is an act of resistance.” Slowly, I’m learning to let go of the shame hangover I’ve grown to expect after a night of dirty talk or showing off my cleavage. I'm reclaiming my body one orgasm at a time.

Small acts of resistance

I’m not kidding myself. We can't wash away these systemic issues in a great wave of black women’s pleasure. But it is a start. “Sex encourages self-love and patience when dealing with oppression by teaching us that we don't have to put our pleasure, of any kind, in the hands of others,” says Tiffani Lashai Curtis, a sex writer in Philadelphia. We deserve to feel joy, excitement and—you guessed it—pleasure.

The more time I spend working toward good sex, the more I’m feeling the power in other areas of my life. Learning to say no to something I’m not into in bed helps me say no to situations and conversations in which I feel unsafe. Learning to ask my partner for exactly what I want is helping me learn to call out relationships where I’m getting less than I deserve. Learning to speak up during sex is teaching me to speak up in life.

Prioritizing good sex is not exactly easy—it means doing the emotional work, shedding centuries of stereotypes and oppression, and most important, rediscovering my voice as a black woman. It’s a challenge. But it’s worth it. Black women deserve validation, one orgasm at a time.

A. Rochaun Meadows-Fernandez

A. Rochaun Meadows-Fernandez is a diversity content specialist. Follow her on Twitter @amrothom.

YOU NEED TO KNOW THE KIND OF PERSON YOU DESERVE TO BE WITH

Gemini
Gemini people are free, wandering spirits who only like to be caged when the cage interests them and has ears. In short, a Gemini is not someone you can mess up with and get away because they will not give you the chance to do that. They might make mistakes but they try their best to be with people who are good at listening to them and keep the conversation going no matter what. They crave genuine, unmatched interest in what they have to say in order to feel good and special.

Romantic gestures really get to them and so do adventurous ones. They are all about life, love and goals. If you are a Gemini yourself, who you should really be with is someone who matches your enthusiasm when it comes to living life and loving it.

Taurus

If you can make a Turus feel special, you can get their attention and their heart. The ultimate priority of a Taurus when finding someone to date is the feeling of being special.

They are fresh and active people themselves who like to be reminded time and again that their presence in the world or in someone’s world, at least, makes a considerable difference. They don’t let negative vibes stay around them for long so a mature and loving partner is what they should look for.
If you are a Taurus, you will know that it is a little difficult for people to get your attention but once they do, you are all for them. Somebody who knows this fact and is willing to try hard to get your attention is who you should really be with. You should not settle for anything lesser.

Aries

As an Aries person, you must like to be your own boss. You dominate people and if not,В then you seek equality in relationships. You are an independent person, if not financially yet then mentally. There is no controlling you for matters small or big and you make it clear to people around you by taking control of things. The kind of person you should really be with is someone who complements this independent nature of yours and understands your need of being by yourself. We all need some support and encouragement, yes, but absolute dependency on someone is not your type.
When looking for a partner, make sure that he or she has a mind open enough to comprehend your unique needs and help you implement them later on in life. You deserve to be with someone with the same point of view.В You can also read our very famous articles on how to love an Aries and how you should be loved.

Cancer
Cancers are people one can completely depend on without having a care in the world because they are men/women of their word; you cannot find a Cancer who is not loyal. Loyalty runs in their veins like blood and they owe up to it. Although you do take time, as a Cancer, to trust another person but when you do, you give them your loyalty and devotion and try your best to keep it that way. Being a Cancer, you get attached to people because of your sensitive nature, therefore you should be someone who understands this fact and never, ever tries to break your heart. Make sure someone should know how to love a Cancer.

More than anything else, you should be with someone who gets your concept of sticking to one person for all your life and how you hold love sacred. You should not be around people who play with love and people’s feelings like they are toys. Also read 10 things you need to know about a Cancerian woman.

Virgo
Virgos should be with people who are exactly like them: confident, quiet, analytical, intelligent and mature. A slight bit of change in disposition would do no harm but it is important that a Virgo’s partner gets the Virgo’s nature and can relate to it to some extent. The reason behind this is that Virgos don’t open up quickly and it takes a person with an insight and great understanding to make a conversation interesting for Virgo.

Everything has to be logical for Virgos and everything has to make sense; someone who meaninglessly fools around in life with no aims would be no match for Virgo. If you are this star sign, you should really be with someone who complements your complicated nature and is ready to keep up with in thick and thing

Libra
Libra can be said to be another word for grace. Whatever they do in life drips of grace; they try their best to stay away from all kinds of fuss and complications.

They are the people who like to keep it simple; their lives are like straight roads where they pay no heed to the mountains and stones resting on roadsides.

A Libra should be with a person who can join them in the journey on the straight road and is willing to jump over any stones that come by.

Their philosophy of life is simple and once someone has understood it and promises to abide by it, a Libra wants nothing else. Greed is a word non-existent in their dictionary of sins and morals.

In order to be with a Libra, one has to be classy and has to have some standards because a Libra does not like trashy personalities.В Also read Why are Libras considered as the best long term partners.

Scorpio
Scorpio’s game is the simplest of all. They are moody but passionate; everything they do either has their full attention or no attention at all. If there was only word to describe Scorpios, the word passionate would suffice. Likewise, Scorpios should be people who are equally passionate and do not leave tasks and commitments in between. Since they are passionate about everything, their love is of the same kind. Scorpios get jealous too often and cannot bear the sight of their partners drifting away. It needs one very convincing man or woman to make them believe that they are not going anywhere, ever.
If you are a Scorpio, you should be with someone who is completely, wholly yours. He or she has to be passionately in love with you just the way you want, so that your kind of passionate love is reciprocated.В If you’re planning on dating a Scorpio thenВ you should know theВ 15 Brutally Honest things about Scorpios.

Sagittarius
Two things you need to know about a Sagittarius: They are adventurous and they are independent. These two traits shape their lives. Their independent nature makes them avoid commitment for most of their lives; they rarely commit to one person but when they do, they make sure they stick to it till death. What they need from their partner is the same thing: to be promisingly truthful and committed but, at the same time, give them freedom and personal space.
It is a rare and worthy experience to be committed to a Sagittarius because of their moving-around nature. If you are a Sagittarius yourself, you should really find someone who does not think your freedom thirst weird and is up for taking the challenge of sticking by your side.В Also read,В 10 Ways to Love a Sagittarius.

Capricorn
Capricorns are all about their aims and goals and need to be with someone who is supportive of them. A depreciating partner will ruin everything for them and they won’t be able to contain all the negative energy. They are straightforward people with a simple outlook on life. Good education, happy family and one ambition after another is their story; they should be someone who is willing to edit and publish this story of theirs.

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HOW DOES DOGS RECOGNIZE CRIMINAL?

All dogs have a highly developed consciousness of odor and hearing. The same smelling consciousness is used by dogs to identify the enemy and the friend.

There is a specific odor in every human being due to the difference between diet and metabolism. Dogs read these personalized odor signals and identify different individuals and can pursue the odor far enough.

Breeds like Cudd Hound, German Shepherd and Beagle are famous for their ability to follow the criminal.